How can that be?? Wasn't it just New Year's Eve? I am sitting here tonight feeling a little frustrated, a little sad. One twelfth of the year has passed. One month out of only twelve is already gone. Where did it go? What did I do with it? How did I spend my time? Tonight I sit here feeling like I must have been sleepwalking for most of January. I know I wasn't. I know that. But still.
I want to be more intentional. I want to be more focused on family life. To string our days together like a jeweler strings a pearl necklace - with care and attention. Not with to do lists and chores with a little fun thrown in on the side.
How to do that? How to spend my time, instead of watching it disappear. I would never squander my money, but I often find myself squandering my time. Often.
Of course, I want to avow a new existence. Swear an oath that will bind me to the life I want for myself and my family. Ha. I know myself better than that by now. I know what works for me. Small steps. Small steps and lists.
So. I offer these small steps. A promise, a list, and a challenge. For me. For my family. If you like, for you.
Though the days do fly by, and life is busy, I will spend my time. I will spend it wisely; by savoring. I will spend my time at least once a week for the next eleven months. I will make a plan at the start of each month, and post it here. A plan for spending time. Spending time savoring, instead of doing. Being, instead of bustling. Laughing, instead of cleaning. Savoring.
Week 1. (2/1) Library and Checkers
When we do our regular Wednesday night family special (gymnastics class, library, and take out Chinese for dinner), I won't rush Sloane. I won't be distracted. I won't do my own thing. I will wander the shelves with her. I will look at every single horse book and help her decide which is best. Then, instead of hurrying to get home, I will play a game of checkers with her using that wonderful over-sized set the library has.
Week 2. (2/8) Brownies and Valentines
Sloane and I will bake a batch of brownies. While they are in the oven, we'll make valentines. By hand. Then, we'll read funny love stories and pig out on brownies and milk.
Week 3. (2/15) Jeffrey, my love
I will spend at least 30 minutes every night this week paying attention only to my love. Not chatting while we cook and clean. Not talking about Sloane and work. More than that. Time just making him feel loved and appreciated. A back rub, a little necking, time poking around his library talking to him about his plans, time listening to opera - because he loves it. Just time.
Week 4. (2/22) Ibu and Bapak
As a family, we'll bring dinner and spend a long evening with my parents. Not rushing back home for bedtime. Not squeezing in two errands since we're in town anyway. Just an evening or a weekend afternoon doing whatever my parents would like to do.
Care to join me?
Both images are by Rosie Hardy.
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