Saturday, July 31, 2010
the cost of connection
I've been thinking a lot lately about the cost of connection. I guess I started thinking about it during our trip to Oregon. We had a spectacular 50th anniversary party, thank God. But, after that, nothing went right. You already know we had a funeral. What I didn't tell you was that my brother-in-law went in the hospital for emergency gall bladder surgery on the day before the funeral.
Like I said, nothing went well. Later this morning Jeffrey's brother is scheduled to have his fourth surgery. This one is invasive. Very. The doctors have already removed more than two liters of bile from Arlen's body. They began this surgery Wednesday night, but had to postpone it in the hopes that his vitals would stabilize. Basically, they were waiting for him to grow strong enough to survive the surgery.
Jeffrey flew back to Oregon yesterday to be with his family and offer what help and support he can. Sloane came home today. She misses her Daddy. Her surprise at not seeing him after a week away quickly changed to a very grown up concern for her Uncle Arlen. She's worried. I'm worried. We all are. Sloane and I sit at home, safe in Missouri, and wish that we could hold our family close, could hold them and pray with them and love them. In person.
I was going to write about the cost of connection. About how being connected to people means you share their pain and their sorrows as well as their joys. I was going to write about what a sweet burden that is. But, just now...
Just now I don't have the energy to string my words together with any skill. None of us have slept much these past few days, and my thoughts aren't clear enough to write well. But, I can still tell you what is on my heart in this moment. Here is the truth: Jeffrey's best friend, his brother's life is in danger. Here is another truth: We serve a big, big God who is mighty to save. And another truth: Prayer is the one thing we can offer, really the only thing that will make a difference.
And so I ask you to pray. Please pray for Arlen Lawson. Pray for his total healing and quick recovery. Please pray for his wife and daughters. Pray for his son and his parents. Pray for his brother, my husband. Pray for all the people who love him. Pray for his doctors. Pray they will be wise and skilled and successful. Please pray.
Arlen's surgery is today at 7:30 am Pacific. That's nine hours from now. I'm going to pray for a while, and then try to sleep. Thank you, in advance, for your prayers, your support, and your love. It's good to know I can count on you. And I do know it. I do.
Update 7/31 3:00pm
Thank you guys for your prayers for Arlen. He is out of surgery now. The doctors couldn't figure out what had stopped the leakage, since they certainly didn't. Of course, our family knows exactly Who did the healing. Arlen still has a long haul and won't be out of ICU for quite some time yet. But, the report is good. The doctors are pleased and the family is encouraged. Thanks again for all your prayers. Please don't stop.
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