Monday, February 16, 2015

thinking...


I've been thinking a lot about this place and about blogs in general.  I've been sad to watch more and more of my friends leave their spaces.  Facebook just isn't enough for me.  It's not real enough or true enough.  Instead, it's just easy enough.  You know?  

I am saddened by the way that Pinterest has changed blogging.  Oh, you know I love Pinterest.  But, it feels as though blogging has mostly become a business platform for young creatives.  Don't misunderstand, I love their creativity as much as anyone.  But, I don't want to give my posts Pinterest-worthy titles and worry about RSS feeds.  I don't want a business, I want a community. 


It feels as though I've lost my tribe.  Like we all changed while I wasn't looking and have gone on to other more tangible pursuits and friendships.  It feels like we've been sucked into the swirling madness of modern life.  We all have so much to do, so many job and family responsibilities.  If we show up at all, our visits are short and on the surface.  I miss the community I found here.

In about two weeks it will be my blog's seventh anniversary.  I've been hanging on to this place in my heart, but barely showing up to the page.  I've been wanting to say things, heart things, and then settling for sharing others' work instead.  I've been missing old friends and not reaching out to make new ones.  I've been wondering if I should close down this fireside.  I've been wondering where all my like-minded friends have gone.


I've been sad.  Grieving, I guess, for lost friends, lost connections.  And wondering what to do.   I'm not sure yet.  But, say hello, won't you?  I'm feeling a bit lonely.


17 comments:

Debby said...

I agree with you but please don't go away. I would miss you my friend.

S. Etole said...

Saying hello. I would miss your photos and the thoughts that you share. I've had to back away for a time due to physical limitations but still enjoy visiting.

d smith kaich jones said...

i could not agree with you more. bless you!

xoxo

Mac n' Janet said...

Don't go, I love your blog and I've missed you blogging. I've been sick and though I haven't blogged much reading the blogs of others keeps me going. I promise not to sell anything on my blog.

Jeanie said...

I've seen that too. I've lost people (but found people). Sometimes life gets in the way, we don't always comment, we don't always go "off blog." But I still find the blog world enormously enriching and one that (a little over seven years later) I don't want to leave.

I hope you don't go, either. I should miss your lists of course. But I also would miss your other posts -- the ones I don't see so much anymore but that I know are within you.

FB isn't enough. It's news. It's not intimate.

Suz said...

oh my I have felt this shift in blogging for a long time. I want to share life not business sites
I have been without a computer and sick with a virus. I will be back to blogging soon. I have been searching for new blogs to peek at...wanting to find connection. Some of my favorites have dropped out of sight. I hope you hang in there and share your thoughts and photos for a long time. I loved your fall blogpal idea you had a few years ago.
Maybe we all need to rethink our blogs so we don't get old and stale. and heavens...b oring
I also have had trouble with posting photos from picasa onto my blog...can't seem to fix it
and what is a post without pictures?

Hindsfeet said...

I know, Relyn....it's gotten a little thin, hasn't it......it was such a sweet boom for awhile.......technology in general is frustrating depth in relationships I think......ironically facillitating relationships, but then diluting and diverting relationships......

....yeah, it was a rich place for awhile......it seems most people want things in sound bites now.....which those other sites seem to support......

well....I'm still here......simply because I still have words to say here and there, and need somewhere to put them.......

...i wish us both deep, meaningful, intimate connection and love that we are both truly longing for......

love,
Liz

alexa said...

As you can see, you are not alone! I too have seen blogs where I have felt a real connection to their writer disappear and never known why. And grieved. And wondered, why bother? My own blogging is less as my caring responsibilities increase and that's an energy thing - less time to create equals less to share. I hope you'll still continue - I look forward to seeing you pop up in my reader, and I always try to click through to be here with you.

Jeanne said...

Please don't stop your beautiful blog...........I love it and would miss your postings terribly.
Love and hugs
Jeanne

Kimer said...

I walk right smack beside you, and your words are what I wish I had said. I find myself sitting down to post, but feel what I have, no one is reading anymore. At least you get comments. I am wondering what to do myself and the only thing I can tell you is speak your heart. I think that's all any of us can do.
Peace out!

christinelaennec said...

I don't do Pinterest, and not much Facebook, but I have heard other bloggers saying what you are saying. I appreciate authenticity in blogging so much, your blog included.

amelia said...

Well, I will tell you now, that would make me sad. I refuse to give up. I've scaled back, due to time constraints at the moment--but that's life, no? Life ebbs and flows . . .

I do need to clean out my bookmarks though--as there are only about 4 blogs I read anymore. And you're all storytellers . . .

Retired English Teacher said...

Blogging has changed in the past year. I agree with you. I love how you said you wanted friends, community, not money from blogging.

I have been absent from blogging a lot in the past two years because of health, and distraction. I am hoping to keep up better in the future.

Keep on blogging.

zooperson said...

I do understand what you are feeling, but your leaving would be a big, big lose. I so look forward to your photos and lists and poems and writing and and. I appreciate the effort that it takes to maintain a quality blog which yours certainly is. Don't be discouraged by what appears to be happening with many other sites. You have lifted me (and I am sure many others) on so many occasions and I thank you for that boost and the encouragement (and humor) you have lent.

Marilyn said...

So many bloggers think about shutting down at times because friends are not visiting. I remind myself that I started blogging for me and the cream are the friends I have made along the way. Please don't leave, though I understand the ebb and flow of life and that there is a season where the friends get distracted, but the love is still there.

Debbie said...

You speak what I have been feeling for a while now. I am coming out of a period where I have not been blogging much because I have been wondering why I blog and why others read blogs and what my blog actually is. It has felt for some time now like blogging is all about the perfect picture and the perfect words. I just can't live up to that. But I have come to realize that my blog is my voice and so I don't have to put up the perfect picture or say the perfect words. I just have to be myself.

Queen Of The Armchair aka Dzintra Stitcheries said...

Totally agree with you Relyn! I too have taken a backseat to blogging but will always stay with it!

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